When You’re Not Sure About Your Relationship Any More

You have the same fight over and over, and it never goes anywhere. Or maybe you’ve stopped fighting altogether, because why bother when nothing changes? You go to sleep feeling lonely even though you’re sharing a queen-sized bed.

Sometimes, you’re afraid you hate your partner, and you don’t know how to change that. Some days you don't even want to change it. You don’t think you want a divorce, but you sure don’t want things to stay the way they are. You may be afraid try therapy because finding out it wouldn't work would be worse than just holding on to the tiny bit of hope you've got left. 

Then the frustration passes, and you remember loving each other again, for a few minutes anyway. That’s the most frustrating part—you still see all the things that made you love each other in the first place, and you don’t want to lose those.

Couples Therapy Can Help

The good news is that couples therapy has undergone a revolution in the last decade, and if you are interested in making changes in your relationship—married, unmarried, gay, straight—I would love to help.

The right type of help can help you transform your relationship. Emotionally Focused Therapy has been shown to help 70-75% of couples move out of a place of crisis, and nearly 90% of research couples report significant improvement in their relationship.

Trauma

When the stuck places have their origins in trauma that occurred before, or during, your relationship, we will need to work toward healing those places, too. In addition to assessing this in the context of your relationship and holding this gently, if a referral to an additional practitioner would be appropriate, I will let you know. If that pain can be addressed in the context of couples therapy, we will make space and time for that work.